Aloha Friends, May all be well and in beautiful spirits. Do you ever ask yourself WHAT’S REALLY IMPORTANT? Today’s post comes deep from within my heart as I sit here writing this post warm and snuggled up on my LazyBoy. I am not talking about what we need to take care of on a daily and regular basis such as taking care of ourselves and our families. How we need to make sure that we have food in our cupboards, the roof over our heads and clothes /shoes on our feet. We all are very aware of how these needs are to be met in order for us to sustain ourselves and our loved ones. I wonder how many of us actually think about how we can be of service to our fellow mankind. The less fortunate than ourselves. The hungry,sick,suffering,homeless,the lonely and heartbroken,the elderly,mentally and physically challenged to name a few. The list of suffering mankind goes on and on. We as a species, a culture,society and people have our heartstrings tugged at on the regular. We may sometimes feel, that we are only one person and that our resources may be strapped by our other everyday issues at hand. We may sometimes think that someone or somebody else will take of it. We can sometimes be bitter and say well, just glad it’s NOT me or that isn’t my problem and turn away. Pretend maybe that we don’t see what is happening. Maybe, we think that if I have done for one than I won’t be able to do for every other person who is hurting or down on their luck due to some unfortunate circumstance or mishap. Maybe, it could have been because they did not make the “right” choices along their life’s path. It really could be a whole slew of reasons. We may NEVER know! I sit here in the early morning hours thinking about our hurting world. The suffering, the wars,famines,pestilences and how heavy my heart is asking myself this question, What can I do? I am financially unable to be giving out monies to every person that I see whom is troubled. I cannot be there for the countless “unseen”. The widow’s and orphan’s who so desperately seek LOVE and COMPASSION. What can we do? Well, I have come to the conclusion of doing what we can with what we’ve got. A kind smile, a hug, a meal,an ear to listen…just listen and acknowledge an individual and say….I HEAR YOU! I believe that it can have such a profound and life changing effect on another’s well being! I can say this also, we can volunteer, we can donate some of our time, we can share something that no longer may have a place for us in our lives that may just be sitting around collecting dust. You know the “STUFF” that we swear we are sure going to use one day but….never do! These are some thing’s that I personally feel are REALLY IMPORTANT. I often imagine that if every living being on our fragile planet just did one random act of compassion, loving kindness and understanding that the results would be phenomenal! Just saying. Be KIND to yourselves and spread some LOVE to somebody today who may be going through their personal storm. Reach out your hands and hearts to one another and say….I AM HERE! YOU ARE LOVED. Kolo.
Aloha Friends, What are you thankful for? I personally believe that no matter how many rainy days we face that there is always the silver lining behind every cloud. We all have them. When we feel that from the time our feet hit the floor in the morning after hitting the snooze button a few times, after we stub our toe on the frame from the bedroom door it ALL starts! We forget to turn the coffee maker on, we run out of hot water for our shower and then only to realize that we have the day off! YIKES! Do you ever go through them days? I am not gonna lie, I CERTAINLY DO! After pulling my act together, I get to thinking that ALL of that drama was just ridiculous. SNAP OUT OF IT! I know that when all is said and done when the day slowly comes to a close, Mr. Sunshine decides to call it quits and Madam Moon comes out to gently watch over us as her comrade Mr. Sandman sprinkles his magic over us to send us into the land of Nod. I lay there in quiet contemplation and realize that I have so much to be grateful for. I am very THANKFUL for being alive, having shelter to call my sanctuary, food in my home to nourish my body, family and friends. Of course my list could go on and on but, I think you get the idea of what it is that I am trying to say. I also believe that we are always in the middle somewhere. There is always going to be someone who is older,wiser,wealthier,happier,smarter and more attractive than we are etc. The only time that we shall rise above it all is when we come to the understanding that we are complete just the way our creator has made us to be. Regardless of what gets thrown our way, we can choose and do have the choice to rise above it all. So, today; ask yourself this question, WHAT AM I THANKFUL FOR? And I can most certainly promise you that you’ll find that there is an over abundance of gratitude laying in our heartspace just waiting to be thanked! Be KIND. KOLO
Aloha Friends, It seems that lately every time we turn around, the world that we live in is getting crazier by the minute. We turn on the T.V. or radio, check out our various Social media sites that there is some type of murder, mayhem, fighting, political unrest and religious unease that has got our emotions and minds into complete craziness! How can we find our PEACE? What does one do to pull ourselves together so we may be able continue our everyday lives? How do we recenter ourselves back to the important thing’s in life that really matter? I ask myself these questions quite often as of late and here is what I do. It works for me and it just might for you if you give it some thought and at least a try. I close myself off from ALL forms of media. May if be T.V., Radio, Social Media, Cell Phone and the Internet. I completely tune myself out from these things as soon as I get the chance. At first it was very difficult. Being that I am the type of person who likes to be kept in the “Know”! I light candles, I get in tune and intouch with my spirituality, I say prayers and meditate. I prepare myself a healthy meal that will nourish my body, mind and spirit. I bring complete awareness and focus my intentions on the meal that I have prepared with gratitude and also thanksgiving. I enjoy my meal slowly and savor every bite. I also find my peace by bringing out my journal and lovingly inscribe words of praise and gratitude for the blessings that I have received in my life thus far. I bring my awareness onto those pages as I write with loving kindness. I also give myself a long hot shower. As I cleanse myself of all my worries and concerns and imagine it all being washed down the drain. I believe in bringing awareness and accessing spirit as I seek solace from the craziness that was brought to my attention on that particular day. I Pray for peace, understanding and the courage as well as strength to persevere through it all. I ask myself these questions, What can I do tomorrow to help to make the world a better place? I also ask for spiritual guidance from my creator to help me in making a positive difference in another’s life. Well, friends, that is how I find my PEACE when the world seems to be very daunting and unforgiving. It is my hope as well as intention that I may have helped you in some way. Be KIND, KOLO
Aloha Friends, What have I learned in my life so far that I can truly say that I know for sure thus far. My journey that I have traveled in the last 53 years has been pretty darn amazing! I can truly say that regrets, I may have a few but, nothing that I cannot change to improve to become a better version of myself. I may have not made the healthiest choices regarding what I have consumed, or some of the people that I have allowed into my life. Some of those choices have also included me doing somethings that I am not particularly fond of or care to discuss at this point and time in my life. I am sure that I will one day. We all make mistakes in life. I believe that it is part of our personal evolution as individuals. We can either learn to rise above them and better ourselves or continue experiencing the same mistakes over and over again. The choice is our alone to make. No such thing as blaming others or our life’s circumstances. I have seen the ugly in people but, I have also seen the best in them as well. What and how I choose to do with it all comes down to my personal perspective on life. How I feel that it should be lived and exemplified makes a whole world of difference on how people perceive me as an individual. That is important to me! I want people to see me as someone who is charismatic and how I enjoy and live my life. I feel that if I can make anyone smile and have a more pleasurable personal journey and to be able to pass it on, than I have done well. I can say for myself that we have all been put on our beautiful planet for a reason and purpose. What basically I am trying to convey here is simply this…Be the example that you would like others aspire to be. Be a positive force in someone else’s lives. It is important to me to be able to do so! Am I perfect….NOPE! Do I claim to be……NOPE! What I have learned is this….EVERYDAY is a NEW DAY to start again…either FRESH or to pick ourselves up where we have left off at. NEVER give up….No matter how dark our days may seem, we NEED to look within and find the strength and courage to strive to become better. After all, it is very comforting to know that WE have the power to be our BEST selves and to be able to pass it on! Be KIND. KOLO
Aloha Friends, No body is PERFECT! At least I have yet to meet one. Today’s post is about loving our bodies. Loving ourselves is not to be mistaken by being cocky or overly confident and self centered. To me, those are such turn off’s! Our bodies, they come in all different shapes and sizes. We ALL know what we look like naked. We often have negative self chatter and silently comment when we gaze upon our reflections before our showers or when changing our clothes. I am not gonna lie…I sometimes do also! We have become so ashamed of ourselves at times especially while standing in line at the grocery store and see the covers of Cosmopolitan, Men’s Heath, Self magazines just to name a few. You know the ones where we tell ourselves, damn, I wished I had a body like that. Or maybe, wow, they are so blessed and lucky and must have the world at their finger tips because they are beautiful according to the standards that are placed upon beauty by our society and the publisher’s of some periodicals. Then we may look down at the grocery belt and wonder if we should put back that bag of Oreo’s or other not so healthy choices that we are planning on purchasing. Hmmm…I know I have done it more times than I care to count! I will often tell myself…..ehhh, I will start making better, healthier choices the next time I shop while opening the bag of Oreo’s on my way home! Have you ever done that? How did it make you feel afterwards? Speaking for myself, NOT TOO GREAT! GUILTY! FAT! UGLY! Those are some of thought’s that I have rolling over and over in my mind sometimes. It’s the TRUTH! When do we tell ourselves…enough is enough! I may never look like that photo enhanced image at the checkout counter, I may not have the poreless, blemish free complexion or hair that is so full of luster and body or the well toned legs like that of a thoroughbred stallion that I have stared at upon the glossy cover that had me so entranced and captivated. I have learned over the years to look deeper and beyond my under captivating appearance. I stare back at my reflection and see someone who is kindhearted, smart, creative, kind, compassionate, honest, humorous and well loved and liked by the individuals who love ALL of me just the way that I am! I have never been one about diets. Been there, done that! There had even been a time when all I did for a couple of days straight was to only drink water to the point of wanting to give the first person who ever said something not too nice or even looked at me funny to want to think about committing some sort of crime! I believe that when we know better, we DO better! I have learned to make lifestyle changes. Nothing too drastic. Baby steps if you will. One small change a time. That is what I do. It may be simple things such as drinking more water. Incorporating more fresh fruits and veggies into my meals. Walking more. Sustaining and supporting healthy, mindful relationships with family, friends and associates. Loving myself is so much more than what I look like or how I may dress. Sure, we all like to look nice and it sometimes can help us to feel a little better about ourselves and that is a good thing! It is also very important to remove the people in our lives that are toxic. Those people who don’t enrich our lives in positive ways. To help us along our journey which we have chosen. In closing my post, I just would like to say that loving and excepting ourselves and others is what I would call one GIANT step for all mankind. Be Kind. Kolo
Aloha Friends, Today’s post is something that has been heavy on my heart for quite sometime now. It has to do with the people who we somehow allow to enter our lives that we have been mislead by. Unfortunately, that we all at some point or another have encountered these selfish individuals regardless of the the signs and warnings that our current friends have tried to share their thoughts regarding such situations when it comes to dealing with these particular types of people. In our crazy and hurried world, we can sometimes be misled by people who we somehow attract into our lives who may at first seem to be godsends just at the right time and place and then after a period of time….WHAM, we get the egg in our faces! We often ask ourselves, why did this happen? How could we allow that to happen? How could I NOT see this coming? Why me? You see, here’s the thing, it happens to the BEST of us. Maybe at first, these people have at some point had good and honest intention. Let’s just hope that was the case anyway. We have allowed them into and become a part of our lives and often times into our circle of friends not mention even our families. Then it happens just when we never thought that it would come our way, we’re deceived, we’re mistreated and betrayed. regardless of all the warning’s from those who tried to bring it to our attention we were blinded by it all. I guess that it is just part of life’s lessons that help us to grow and to become better versions of ourselves than we were yesterday. Sometimes also we have to just learn for ourselves no matter how difficult it turns out that there are people out there who are very unhappy with their lives or have been horribly mistreated in life that all they want to do is hurt others in their own journey’s that they have chosen. I by no means say that this is their “Get Out of Jail Free” Card. I don’t feel that individuals whom have been hurt in this way only know how to hurt others because they have been treated that way. If anything, they should know firsthand how and what that feels like and should NOT emulate that type of behavior. So, in closing, I will say this, we NEED to be the light for those who are lost in the darkness. We NEED to be able to light their paths and to help guide them when they have lost their way. I know that it is difficult. Believe you me…I KNOW! But in life we need to keep on keeping on. Be KIND, Kolo.
Aloha Friends, Today’s post is how to deal with the Naysayers (Hater’s). We ALL go through this. There shall always be those individuals who just have nothing better to do with their miserable lives than to HATE on you. No matter what you do they are all up in your business trying to tell and advise you when it comes to living YOUR life! In my younger adult life, I was so concerned about what other’s thought of me. May it have been what I believed in, how I dressed, what I did for a living, what I ate and the list can go on and on. However, at that time in my life, I had always taken that to heart. It had affected me deeply. Sad to say but, it was TRUE what these people had to say mattered. Now, as I have lived and learned many of life’s lessons it really does not matter. We are ALL unique in our own GOD given way. We have our special gift’s and talents. It is what makes us who we are and have become as individuals. Some people, always will have an opinion. That is okay. What we choose to do with their opinions are just that…opinions! My friends, we have to learn not to pay them no mind. You are you. There is NO other. I have learned quite some time ago that WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! When we allow such negativity into our lives, we have allowed and have given permission to let them claim your power. The end result is that we have had a small piece of us taken away. How SAD is that! I can say this, keep on doing your “thing”. We have been conditioned by what other’s may have to say about the lives that we live that it can affect us in a myriad of ways. It affects out self-esteem, our confidence and can even affect or better well being. I can say this, DO NOT let it get under your skin. Do what you LOVE as long as it does not hurt others or cause them to become less of what they are meant to be. It is my sincere hope that as you read this post may it send a positive message to your heartspace and that you will share my philosophy with others to become the BEST version of themselves. Be KIND. KOLO.